Sunday, 17 January 2010

  • Falling for the Wrong People

    Help me. I have this problem. I always fall for the wrong people. I'm beginning to suspect it a neurological disorder which only adversely affect my love life.

    Exhibit A: She was a girl. Not a ten pointer on the hot-or-not scale, but she was nice, flirty and I found her attractive. We had countless and memorable conversations over MSN. We had great walks through the town. I felt that we really connected. Only one problem: she was already in a relationship. It broke my heart that we couldn't be together.

    Exhibit B: We went to the same extra-curricular club. She was athletic, a really nice person. I didn't really know her, but I would have like to. I soon found out, she was married. FML.

    Just the other day, I found out that yet another girl, I thought of asking out was already in a relationship. I don't know what it is about me. Bad luck? A chronic neurological disorder?


    Help, I need somebody,
    Help, not just anybody,
    Help, you know I need someone, help.
    The Beatles

Friday, 20 November 2009

  • Believe

    It's almost that time of year. Christmas. It's such a magical time. Full of hopes and dreams. Wishes coming true.

    Perhaps the thing that separate children from adults at this time of year is believing. Of course, I'm referring to the jolly old man in a red suit. Children believe in Santa; adults do not. Nevertheless, I find a child's innocent and unwavering belief so incredibly awe-inspiring.

    The crux of this amazement is their sheer power of belief. I think that's something we forget as adults: Believing. Now I'm not just talking about Mr. Kringle. I'm talking about believing in general. I'm talking about believing that dreams come true. I'm talking about believing in true love. Most of all, I'm talking about believing in ourself.

    To me, that last one is perhaps one of the most important things to believe. Yet so few people do it. I'm not trying to patronizing because I personally don't believe in myself. Nevertheless, I believe that having faith in our own abilities is incredibly important. I resolve to change. It'll be my Christmas gift to myself. Or put another way, an early New Year's resolution.

    "If you just believe...."

Friday, 25 September 2009

  • Getting over someone you loved

    I met this girl a couple years back; and we just clicked. It was amazing. Whether it was during a walk to the subway station or maybe during a MSN conversation, we'd chat endlessly about school, television and everything else. I've never been so open and as expressive with anyone else. Furthermore, we shared the same beliefs, interests and had similar goals in life.

    But there was a problem. She was already seeing someone else. Me, being the chivalrous fool, thought that maybe I'd wait for her. Maybe one day we'd eventually be together. I have yet to see that day. Maybe I should have asked her out, but I didn't want to be a jerk. After some time, I came to the conclusion that she'd never want to be with me. Feeling jilted, I grew bitter and aloof, and basically depressed. Now we've drifted apart, and I'm glad because the sight of her reminds me of those incredibly dark days.

    Unfortunately, I have yet to see the silver lining for all this. Life has basically been rotten for the past couple years. I keep thinking to myself, "What's the point?" To be honest I'm confused. I'm not sure whether I'm depressed over not being with her, or depressed that I may never find someone like her to be with. I feel hopeless. I'm always distracted and I lack motivation for work. As a result, I seem to be getting nowhere in life.

    So I ask you, how do you get over someone? Is it really just about finding someone else? I thought of that two years ago, but I came to the conclusion that I didn't want someone else to be my rebound girl. So I've never really tried.
    It was my opinion that these scars would heal with time, and after I'd try to find someone. Fast forward to the present, and I'm still stuck in the same rut.

    A penny for your thoughts.

Wednesday, 02 September 2009

  • How Can We Improve Xanga?

    It's been gnawing at me. I love Xanga. I think it's great.

    So why aren't more people using it?

    The first thing that comes to mind is that people in general like visual media. That is to say they'd rather be sitting in front of the television (or alternatively YouTube) or playing WoW or, well the list goes on.

    But that's isn't quite true. There are millions of people crawling the Web. Not to mention the fact that there are millions of people using Facebook and MySpace which are about as "visual" as Xanga. (By visual I am referring to pictures and video, just to clarify at this point. Naturally you are staring a screen right now. Unless you have one of those cool devices that reads out the text to you. But I digress...)

    So what is it?

    I guess that's the first question. The second natural question is: Do we want lots of people scrawling over Xanga? I mean there are good people and there are bad. There are those creepy people who like to Facestalk. Admittedly that's harder to do with Xanga, but still, do we really want those kind of people? (I simply, and rhetorically, ask because as more people come, we'd get a lot of great new members, but unfortunately it just takes a couple spoiled apples to ruin the lot.)

    If the answer to that last question is in the affirmative, then the next natural question is: What can we do?

    As noble webizens of Xanga, the vangaurd of its peace and prosperity, what can we do to make Xanga a better place? I have some (albeit few) thoughts, but I leave that as the open question.

    Speaking of ads... I have to include this. I just makes you go: huh?!
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Friday, 28 August 2009

  • Are you paid enough to blog?

    As mentioned in Vanedave's article why not pay Xangans for blogging? It's a great idea, right?

    Unfortunately, there is a bit of a problem. As one astute Xangan pointed out, the poor team of 11 Xanga developers would have to reach really deep into their pockets (and probably behind their couches) to scrounge the cash to pay for quality blogs.

    Let's just suppose for a moment that John won the lottery, and after buying a new house (with a huge baby room), he decided to pay out Xanga, the next question is obvious: How much would you like to to be paid for your blogs? A quarter? A dollar? Ten bucks?

    A million dollars? Well, let's be reasonable here.

    The next natural question is how would the Xanga Team decide who gets a cut of the cake? The top rated? The most commented?

    What if we run in the same problem with the Featured Section, where only a handful of people get "rewarded" for their work (i.e. they were always featured, and in this case they would always be paid). Would that sit well with you? I mean on the one hand it would help to improve the quality of blogs. Right? Maybe? On the other hand, we'd be missing out on a cut of the pie (yes, you can tell I like food).

    Then how do we solve this problem? How do we get people who aren't established within the Xanga community and give them a shot? I'm definitely naive around here, so maybe I'm missing something. Ok, maybe I'm missing a lot. So I'd love to hear what you have to say.

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